There
is a Chinese proverbs which in Tagalog says, “walang salita, walay
kamali; poco (or kunting) salita, kunting kamali; maraming salita,
maraming kamali” (In English for the sake of our International
viewers/readers of this article, this means, [no words, no mistakes;
few words, few mistakes; plenty of words, plenty of mistakes]). He
also said, “The tongue of the just is as choice silver:” (Prov.
10:19-20 KJV), and further said, “The mouth of the just bringeth
forth wisdom: but the froward tongue shall be cut out. The lips of
the righteous know what is acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked
speaketh frowardness [or perversity] (Prov. 10:31-32 KJV). But I
like most particularly the NLT version of Prov. 16:23 which says,
“From a wise mind comes wise speech: the words of the wise are
persuasive”. He gave emphasis to this by repeating it differently
in Prov. 20:15: “Wise speech is rarer and more valuable than gold
and rubies”. For those who have cases to prosecute or defend in
any court of law or tribunal, it will benefit them if they engage the
services of a lawyer who knows the book of Proverbs and Ecclesiastes
authored by King Solomon and who will apply his knowledge, especially
in his pleadings, whether orally or in writing.
Again,
Solomon said, “He that hath knowledge spareth his words: and a man
of understanding is of an excellent spirit. Even a fool, when he
holdeth his peace, is counted wise: and he that shutteth his lips is
esteemed a man of understanding” (Proverbs 17:27, 28 KJV). Thus,
a distinct characteristics of a man of wisdom is that he is not
talkative. He sparingly talks, and if he talks it is always
“bullseye”. Meaning, there is a point to be understood or to be
accomplished.
Words
are therefore important. Notably, by the Word of God the
world and all that is in heaven and on earth have been created
(Genesis 1:1-31).
Wars
begin because of words. Why did President Bush declare war against
Iraq or Saddam Hussein? Because the latter expressed in words his
elation during the 9-11 catastrophe in New York, US.A. Then, when
the 48 hours ultimatum was announced by President Bush, Saddam said,
“The Americans will swim in their blood”. Unfortunately for
Saddam, the Americans attacked first by air, then on the ground, by
combat soldiers. So, let us be careful of our words, it might ignite
a case in court which is annoying and always expensive, or worst of
all, in a much bigger scale, it might result to a war which is most
destructive in life and property.
I
used to tell my clients to discourage them from unnecessarily or
indiscriminately filing cases in court or to warn them of the
necessity of spending a lot of money, time and effort once a case is
filed in court by saying that filing or defending a case in court is
like waging or engaging in a war. The nation that will first lose or
lack war personnel or soldiers and materials like guns, ammunition,
tanks, airplanes, ships, submarines, etc. will surrender or lose the
war. Those who have logical minds follow my advice. Like what that
American Ceasar and great Gen. Douglas MacArthur said, once you
engage in war, “No retreat, no surrender. In war there is no
substitute for victory”.
Jesus
said that our spoken words reveal what kind of heart we possess or
what is in our heart. The complete statement of Jesus is,
“The good man brings
good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man
brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out
of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.” (Luke 6:45 NIV).
We
cannot avoid speaking, but when we do so, let us remember the words
of caution or advice of King Solomon, as aforequoted and as revealed
to him by the Holy Spirit.
When
Solomon was already past 50 years old, writing Ecclesiastes, he said,
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose
under the heaven: … a time to keep silence (Eccl.
3:1,7). It is standard practice in all criminal investigations in
the Philippines that the one under investigation is cautioned: “You
have the right to remain silent. Any declaration you make can be
taken against you…”. This must be the basis of an anonymous
author who printed a quotation: “Getting into an argument with a
woman is like being arrested. Because, anything you say can and will
be used against you”. Our daughter, Susan, who is a lawyer
practicing with me, gave me a copy of it which I posted in my room’s
main door. I was waiting for a comment from my wife but despite the
lapse of two months already, I never heard any word from her. And
she goes in and out of my office everyday. She is practicing
silence! I should be very careful because my wife is wise.
Indeed,
there is a time to talk and a time to listen. There is a time to
move as well a time for staying still. The wise person knows when to
talk and when to keep silent.
When
people were hungry for knowledge, Jesus spoke and taught for hours
even beyond and past lunch time, but when He got to Pontius Pilate’s
hall, where truth was ignored, He was silent. More so when He was
endorsed to King Herod by Pilate. He spoke no word at all.
Our
words matter. Jesus said, “But I say unto you, that every idle
word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day
of judgment. For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy
words thou shalt be condemned” (Matthew 12:36, 37 KJV). Let us
be careful of our words, when in doubt, keep silent.
(FGBMFI
Davao City Chapter Weekly Bulletin, August 25, 2012)